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Tuesday, February 11, 2014


The Family Strategy Toolkit is a template families use to develop and determine the medium and long-term development goals they would like to achieve. The full toolkit empowers families to exploit their family gifting, create wealth, positively influence society, transform their environments and leave a legacy. The toolkit is especially useful for both young and mature families seeking a roadmap through the challenging (and sometimes chaotic) seasons of life and working hard to achieve an elusive “work-life balance” formula. Send for a free toolkit from and read the rest of this document to find out how to make it work for you.
The Family Strategy Toolkit is based on the principles put forward in the book Family Strategy by Allan & Violet Bukusi. The authors draw on Biblical wisdom, the dynamic realities of family life and the concepts of successfully business strategy to create eight principles that help married couples efficiently run the business of family. While other writers focus on the importance of the relational aspects of love, marriage and family, the authors suggest that a sound understanding of the purpose and business of family is critical to sustaining caring marriages and maintaining love in family relations by acknowledging and providing for the fulfillment of all family members life goals, dreams, personal aspirations and destiny.
You get the full value of the Family Strategy by, 1) reading the book to obtain a critical and core appreciation of the subject, 2) attending the training workshop to understand how best to apply the success principles in your situation and make them work for you. And, 3) appropriately filling in each section of the Family Strategy Toolkit to enable you to create and commit to realizing practical yet inspiring personalized strategic goals.
However, by thoughtfully completing each section of the Family Strategy Toolkit can give you a quick start to transforming your family in the hope that you will in time obtain a copy of the book and attend the workshop to complete your understanding of family strategy and realize its lifetime benefits. The short section completion notes that follow below will help set you off on the path to successful family strategy.
The Toolkit enables married couples to create a personalized strategy to inspire them to realize their dreams, guide the family through life’s predictable crisis, encourage the couple to meet discuss and prepare for future (financial) needs and motivate them to seek out Gods purposes for the family’s unique gifting.
Family strategy is not a prenuptial agreement, but will find application among married couples committed to working together to making a success of their marriage and family life. Family strategy is not a magic wand, panacea or “counseling session”,. Neither does using the tool guarantee users desired success.  family strategy is merely a tool in the hands of committed a couples willing to use all the resources God has placed in their hands and work hard to achieve good success in life.
Though all family members will benefit from the practice of Family strategy principles at every stage in life, couples between the ages of 30-45 years will quickly grasp its power and importance as a practical tool to successfully navigate, resolve and overcome the predictable crisis and challenges of family life.


In this section, couples are encouraged to define a common understanding of family, marriage and parenting. Some of the major difficulties couples experience in moving the family agenda forward stem from undiscussed understanding and commitment to divergent family values. By agreeing on a primary approach to the core issues of family life, a married couple lays a foundation that prepares the family to reach accelerated agreement and action on secondary matters such as wealth, careers  and family roles. We suggest that the family philosophy be based on godly principles and not just personal opinion.
You do not have to be in business to have a vision. Having a corporate vision as family is immensely liberating, as partners will benefit from the support of the other in pursuit of the common (combined vision). Individual dreams do NOT have to die for a united vision to be achieved. Indeed the corporate vision benefits from the strength of submitting (combining) the two visions to define the new. Partners will find themselves appropriately stretched by the commitment to the new vision.

The family gifting requires a couple to investigate and invest in the gifting of every family member to realize the family’s full potential. Every family has a unique gifting, experience and education that can be harnessed to achieve its most competitive advantage. The exercise to find out the family gifting should not be a “one off” exercise rather it should be continuous process of investigation, exploration and exploitation.

The strategic goals you set for your family should not be simple improvement goals rather they should be goals that will transform your family life for good. If you don’t own a home, set a goal to own one. Such a goal will stretch, challenge and inspire you to commit and engage all your (physical, mental and material) resources to bring it to being. Such goals will mean you will have to make sacrifices, savings and design schemes to help you realize your goals. Good strategic goals will grow you as a person and strengthen your marriage as you commit to work together to achieve a previously impossible goal.

Every family is a steward to some amount of wealth. The more competent you become at handling the (modest) wealth you have, the more wealth you can handle. The ability to create wealth is a mark of growth and a great blessing. Interestingly, many people are blessed to find jobs because of good stewards who work hard to create wealth for society. Creating wealth need not be just to escape poverty, but to enjoy Gods bounty and bless many in the process. It is also good to intentionally take stock of the wealth you create for your family wellbeing and the inheritance you want to pass on to your children’s children.

The model here is based on the fact that there are only four (five, if you add debt) things you can do with money. The proportion in which you allocate and use your money in these areas determines the quality of life you live today and directly determines the quality of life you will have tomorrow. If you want to increase in wealth, you may have to eliminate debt and start saving today. By adjusting your current spending on operational expenses, you release money for investments that pay you dividend in future. This section allows you to create a financial future for your family by modeling your financial allocation today. However, you will have to determine the financial adjustments you will make in the handling of money and income that will allow you to achieve your financial goals.

No matter how gifted or talented or endowed one partner may be, success cannot be enjoyed without equitable participation and equal engagement in the process. While we emphasize corporate effort and teamwork, it vital that both partners take up the full load they are able to bear with the joy and commitment of equal engagement to achieve and enjoy the success of any family initiative.

Strategic goals can be set for several years ahead, but monthly incomes, operational budgets and action plans need to be broken down into objectives that can be set, implemented, monitored and reviewed against timelines. In other words the family strategy is not in the document, rather it is in the day-to-day action you take as a family to realize your strategic goals. The unique and specific steps you will take cannot fit on the TOOLKIT page. You will need to set specific steps you will take in the short term to realize you long term goals. In this regard, the purpose of the review dates is to create set times when progress of the whole strategy can be reviewed, celebrated, revised and improved as necessary to ensure the family remains on course to its goals.

Signing commitment to the strategy is a good way to record participation in the process and having a friend to hold you accountable shows an even greater commitment to achieving success. The document itself becomes a witness and a testimony of what you are willing to work for and what you can trust God to bring about. Of course, nothing can succeed without the blessing of God and it is always wise to commit the whole project to Gods direction.  
Once you have completed filling in the TOOLKIT, read it through to enable you appreciate and take ownership of the strategic focus you have created for you family.   
In drawing up a family strategy, you have taken a leap of faith and shown great courage in your willingness to change, transform and advance your situation in life. Your job is now to follow through with ACTION. Your steps will not be perfect, but you cannot copy anybody else’s strategy to get better results. Your progress may be incremental, but you can rejoice in every step of the way. Every familys’ journey is unique.
However, as stated earlier there is a great deal of knowledge you still need to get the best possible results out of the Family Strategy Toolkit, so get the book and attend the training workshop for greater empowerment to achieve your goals in life.
Allan Bukusi, 2014

1.       request a free Family Strategy Toolkit to be sent to you,

2.       order a copy of the book (your will receive detail of the cost of the book plus shipping)

3.       esquire when the next workshop will be held near you

4.       Send us feedback on your learning/ usage of concept of Family Strategy   

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